On the Brink of Mental Orgasm

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Saturday, January 24, 2015
ON THE BRINK OF MENTAL ORGASM
They want it all & more
On the Brink of Mental Orgasm

A veteran escort is convinced that the taste of a woman’s genitalia is far yummier in a man’s head than on his tongue. @silkenvoice feels like rubbing her clit against a brilliant mind. @mokami ejaculates on the mere thought of a girl reading Kant’s ontological argument explanation out loud. Wolfieboy does not care much about the plumbing and seeks ‘bunny relations’ with nerdy scholars. Every single one of these fine individuals is a sapiosexual. May this be the case for you and/or your beau? If so, do not panic and enjoy. 

 

What Is Going On In That Beautiful Mind?

 

The perks of the mind

If your lover is sapiosexual, he must be expressing an intellectual interest in your own person and assessing the strength of your character, privileging rational discussions over common conversations and looking for the right partner by asking the right questions. Precious time is invested in investigating the evolution of your emotional venture. Sex to her/him is the pinnacle of poised romance.

 

Know her/his mental aphrodisiacs

Since your lover finds intellectual stimulation sexually arousing, your inquisitiveness, astuteness, education, and sense of humor may be exactly what turns her/him on. But if you wish to shake things up, redefine the erotic without ever losing your intellectualism, individualism, or the sexy character image you have created by mixing practiced amateurism and imaginative maturity.

 

Train your brain to stay at speed

Because sapiosexuals prefer cerebral orgasms over erogenous ones, it is not your physique that you should rely on. It is your lusty brain. Watch foreign Indie movies instead of mind-numbing blockbusters. Read about almost everything, from fiction to nonfiction. Keep up with current affairs. Furthermore, master the fine art of effective communication. The good part will follow.

 

What Sapiosexuals Want

 

They want to be whole

There are women who ache for a romantic encounter in the bookstore followed by a kinky exchange of opinion about post-Nietzschean influences, aristocratic radicalism, global politics, or whatever stimulates their cerebrum. There are also men who, like Henry Rollins, wish for a soul mate who sits them down, shuts them up, tells them ten things they did not already know, and turns them on.

 

They want to be heard

They know how sensual they can be wearing nothing but their wit and cynicism, argumentative playfulness, and deliberate abandonment. But even when they utter no words, their body speaks loudly and sends out signals whenever they show some skin here or there, shed some inhibitions, or make a certain move or a certain sound… for they would be secretly screaming “take me, body and soul!”

 

They want it all & more

They yearn for earth-shattering orgasms that are longer-lasting, exceptionally heightened, and conducive to sweeter escapes… for lovers with emotional intelligence who have an incisive and irreverent mind, who are calm under pressure, able to think on the fly, and willing to go past the flesh and unveil their truth… are more kindhearted and sensual… more cheeky and exotic.

 

You Will Enjoy It Just As Much

 

The delights of zooming in

By not dismissing your lover’s fantasies, you get to explore new scenery, open up to new sensations, try different things, and activate unknown pleasure buttons. A tip for her: When the waves of excitement invite you to close your eyes, don’t; for it is a shame not to experience all the novelties of visually caught stimuli. A tip for him: When you are holding her in the midst of a rocking rump, sense every bit of her inner skin, muscles, softness, motion, scent… as if you are her seismograph.

 

The delights of enacting a racy play

Creating the perfect scenario demands real effort. First of all, erase any neurotic idea of how sex should or should not be. To know what does it for your lover, go straight to the source simply by asking her/him. When building a sassy storyline, stay away from the trash you have learned about deflowering G-spots or doing men, from the mind-draining hook-up concept, or any other cliché. When it comes down to doing it, take it slow, and offer your partner memories to munch on later.

 

The delights of giving oratorical sex

For a sapiosexual, making love is just as much mental. Talk to your lover, tell him what you are thinking, feeling, what you want to do…. It is not just about what you say, but how you say it. A tip for her: Express how much you have missed him by describing how you and your frisky fingers “slipped” in the tub because the mere thought of him makes you wet. A tip for him: Tell her how much she means to you or for how long you have been fantasizing about her being in all these positions.

 

We have become people of duty, not desires, compulsive consumption, not erotic reinvention. We have forgotten the fun side of the push and pull dynamics in platonic flirtation. Your sweetheart may not be an exception. So, next time you feel like revolutionizing her/his history with sex, show her/him the way to your naughty neurons, give her/him a taste of your most flamboyant, erotic tableaux… put pornography to shame. And remember, to successfully fuck your darling’s brains out, it is best to start with the mind.