Some people simply have the knack for getting other people’s attention… while others can ramble on and on without a single word taken in. It’s all in your technique! We are going to give you some handy hints on ways to get others to open their ears and really hear what you are saying to them. The key is to pay attention to the listener!
- Have you ever met face to face with someone who thinks they know it all? Well, we all have and these individuals need to be treated with care and patience. The easiest way to get a “know it all” to listen is to you is to not sound like you are being critical. Use your words carefully! Ask them if they would like your opinion so they feel they have some control. It’s all psychological.
- Pay attention to how the other person communicates. Are they quick? Are they slow? Do they want you to make your point fast? Pay attention to their cues and follow them. This is another sure way to get the other party to listen to what you have to say.
- When you need to spill your heart out, be clear to the other person that you simply need someone to listen to you. Some friends (especially men) don’t want to hear your woes because they think you are searching for a solution from them. Be clear about your intentions; allow them to relax and simply offer their open ears.
- Others will definitely want to listen to you… when you are a good listener yourself! It’s a two way street and the more important and worthy you make others feel, the more likely they will respond positively to you, and in the end, give you their time to listen.